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Rambling about diamonds & Stargate: Atlantis.

 Does contain spoilers for "Quarantine", so beware.

The reaction to the ring Rodney bought for Katie ("conflict-free diamond, an eighth of a carat") has made me think some more about my feelings about engagement rings. It also made me aware of my lack of knowledge about such things, and about conflict-free diamonds ... so I did some research.

The general fangirl reaction has been to call Rodney a cheapskate for "only" buying an eighth of a carat. This is what initially got my hackles up. I admit - I have a problem with engagement rings. For a lot of girls, it seems, engagement rings are a measure of not only how much your guy loves you, but also whether or not he's worth marrying. The bigger the diamond, the more you are loved and the bigger the catch your guy is. Me? I can't stand engagement rings. I would never accept one, even though it is possible that I would accept the proposal. To me, engagement rings are symbolic of the old-fashioned view of women as property. The man buys his woman's hand in marriage, securing himself someone who will cook and clean for him. That's the old view. Man provides the $$, woman earns her keep by housekeeping. The engagement ring, to me, is the start of that road. Otherwise, why is there no engagement gift from the woman to the man? Anyway, that's how I feel about it. 

Another aspect to this is the erroneous designation of Rodney as a cheapskate. Having looked around online, I found prices for ordinary diamonds ranged from $720 for a titanium ring with one tenth of a carat, to a standard silver ring with half a carat costing $1,200.00. A ring with a diamond of an eighth of a carat would obviously then be priced between $720 and $1200. Not spare change. On top of that, conflict-free diamonds cost between 3% and 10% more than conflict diamonds. I was pleased, though, to discover there is actually a booming business in conflict-free diamonds. Conflict-free diamonds, for those who don't know, are diamonds created where the money made from them does not support war, and also where the workers who mine them do so under fair labour conditions. (You can read some about it here.) I think it's cool, too, that the writers of SG:A wrote that Rodney chose to buy a conflict-free diamond. Yay for ethical purchasing practices!

Final word, though? I thought they handled the break-up of Rodney and Katie really well. They showed us and the characters that they just weren't suited to a life together. It's sad, though, that Rodney thinks it's his fault - Katie was right, Rodney is too hard on himself. (I blame Jeannie and her constant criticism!)


Wow, I went on a bit there.

Comments

Ha. My thoughts.

He so bought a Canadian Diamond. ;)

What you say makes sense. Certainly wasn't my style though. I'd personally rather something without a stone at all. I'd say Katie too would be better suited to have a simple style that didn't stick out at all because of her job. Yeah way over thinking this.

Hmmm you mean I'm not the only one who finds Jeannie a tad more mean then funny?